Empathy: Understanding Our Differences
“Empathy is choosing to see ourselves in another despite our differences. It’s recognizing that the same humanity – the same desire for meaning, fulfillment, and security exists in each of us, even if it’s expressed uniquely.” – Physician and former United States Surgeon General Vivek Murthy.
Emotions can be overwhelming; however, understanding someone else’s perspective leads to stronger relationships. For example, “If a friend is angry about the way a boss treated them, you’d likely share their sense of frustration. Maybe you can’t solve their problem, but you can understand that they need to vent” (HelpGuide.org, para. 2). Mirroring another’s emotions and recognizing their mental state is evidence of caring for the other person.
Other aspects include:
- What does it mean?
- What does it feel like?
- What does it look like?
“I See You.”
Empathizing with someone is a way to demonstrate kindness and care. It’s saying, without speaking, I See You. Reflecting their feelings nonverbally validates how they feel. The University of California explains that “affective empathy” refers to the sensations and feelings we get in response to others’ emotions. This can include mirroring what that person is feeling or just feeling stressed when we detect another’s fear or anxiety. “Cognitive empathy,” sometimes called “perspective taking,” refers to our ability to identify and understand other people (para. 2).
A Warm Embrace
Like a physical hug, wrapping your mind around another’s mental state is like giving them an emotional hug. Everyone wants to feel fulfilled and wanted, and to know they have meaning. Being empathetic towards others allows us to respond to their emotional needs. It is easier to relate to those with common walks of life. For example, “a person of color who sees another person of color being mistreated by the police would not only see the social injustice of the situation. They would also be infuriated because it’s their group that is being discriminated against. They could see that it could be next week in the same situation” (Helpful Professor.com, para. 5).
Strength in Vulnerability
Compassion is a strength. Sharing with others and understanding one another is difficult but powerful. When we are vulnerable, we build empathy. “We can let down our walls, understanding and sharing feelings more easily, and encouraging others to do the same. In turn, we become more understanding, willing to forgive others, and give love to others.”(Eugenetherapy.com, para. 3). Empathy is a core value at Echoing Hills; it is encouraged in each region and at individual homes. The ministry hopes to cultivate mutual respect between leadership, staff, and those we serve.
https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/communication/empathyhttps://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/empathy/definition
https://eugenetherapy.com/article/why-vulnerability-is-a-strength/
